If you’re a human, you’ve gone on a date, and you’re still alive, chances are you’ve been through a breakup. “It’s seriously so easy!” said no one, EVER. So don’t expect it to be. But, what you can expect is healing. You can expect time to pass and for it to hurt less. You can expect someone else coming into the picture and showing you why it’s better that it didn’t work. You can expect to bounce back between hard times and your true self again. Keep reading for some tips I’ve learned along the way.
Mourn the loss
I know they didn’t die, but a piece of you did that went with him. Now, I know that’s harsh, but what I mean is that vision you had with them. It’s been whisked away and won’t come back. The good news? There’s still so much left and there’s still so much more coming for you.
Delete it
Seriously, delete his number, his Snapchat, his Instagram, his Facebook, and all the pictures that even relate to him (or her!). I don’t care if this takes time, it needs to be done. Out of sight, out of mind right? Probably not, but we can do our best. Keep yourself from reaching back out and reopening that wound. You have to let it heal. Period.
Focus on yourself
That one thing you’ve been meaning to do or wanting to do and haven’t had time? Go do it! You are your main priority. Take care of yourself
Give it time
You’re likely not going to feel better overnight. Research has found that typically females are more upset right after, but over time they get better, while males typically seem fine right after, but later are upset. So ladies, be prepared to wait it out a bit. It will get better, I promise you.
Celebrate the good
Find things that you enjoyed and made your time together worthwhile. Remember some good times you had and what you learned from being together. Sometimes it just can be a new artist you started listening to or a new restaurant you really enjoy. There is always something good in the bad, sometimes you just have to look harder than other times. I also like to end on a good note if possible. You don’t want to regret being together, so don’t.
Sunshine and Coffee 